Reclaim: Healing from Pornography and Rebuilding Your Life with Dr. Kevin Skinner

Mapping Your Sexual Stress: Using the Six-Factor Inventory to Jump-Start Recovery (Season 1-Episode #3)

🎙️ Episode #3
Mapping Your Sexual Stress: Using the Six-Factor Inventory to Jump-Start Recovery
 
📑 Episode Summary
In this deep-dive episode of Reclaim: Healing from Pornography and Rebuilding Your Life, Dr Kevin Skinner walks you through the Sexual Stress Inventory, a six-category framework that pinpoints where—and why—unwanted sexual behaviors keep showing up. You’ll learn how to:
Consistently Abstain – why true sobriety requires time, patience, and Recovery Capital.
Regain Behavioral Control – spotting the moments when “I could lose everything” still isn’t enough to stop you.
Recognize Consequences – confronting the hidden ways your actions hurt loved ones.
Decode Your Emotional Response – understanding irritability, withdrawals, and the dopamine “temper tantrum.”
Manage Cravings & Urges – building a granular, step-by-step action plan before temptation strikes.
Disarm Shame – shifting the internal dialogue from “I’m unlovable” to “I’m reclaiming the real me.”
Dr Skinner also explains why he layers in screenings for Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE-10), PHQ-9 depression, GAD-7 anxiety, and ADHD, showing how early trauma, mood, and attention challenges often fuel compulsive sexual behavior.
The episode closes with a preview of next week’s focus on cravings and urges—the place most people feel stuck—and an invitation to use the free assessments and resources that accompany the Reclaim program.
 
🔗 Resources & Next Steps
Resource
What You’ll Get
Link
Sexual Stress Inventory & companion assessments
Instant scores for stress, ACEs, mood, and ADHD—plus tailored starter tips
humanintimacy.com/reclaim
Book — Treating Pornography Addiction
Dr Skinner’s evidence-based roadmap for clinicians and strivers alike
humanintimacy.com/book
Online Course — Reclaim: Overcoming Unwanted Sexual Behaviors
12-module, self-paced training with video lessons, worksheets, and group options
humanintimacy.com/reclaim-course
Recovery Capital Worksheet (free download)
Assess and strengthen the personal, social, and community assets that sustain long-term change
same link as above
Book — Dopamine Nation by Dr Anna Lembke
Insight into the brain’s reward system and why withdrawals feel so intense
 
988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (U.S.)
24/7 confidential support if you’re feeling unsafe with your thoughts
 
Ready to go deeper? Grab the assessments, pick up the book, or enroll in the course today—and make sure to subscribe so you don’t miss our upcoming episode on mastering cravings and urges. It’s time to reclaim the real you.
 

What Successful People Do To Reclaim Their Lives with Dr. Kevin Skinner (Season 1- Episode #2)

🎙️ Reclaim: Healing from Pornography and Reclaim Your Life
Episode 2: What Successful People Do To Reclaim Their Lives
🔍 Episode Summary
In this episode of Reclaim: Healing from Pornography and Rebuilding Your Life, Dr. Kevin Skinner introduces the Recovery Capital Model—a research-based framework built on what successful people do to heal from addiction. Drawing from global studies on substance misuse recovery, Dr. Skinner outlines 10 key areas that determine long-term success: social support, physical and mental health, purpose, coping skills, financial and housing stability, education/employment, community engagement, and cultural/spiritual connection.Listeners are invited to reflect on their current strengths and gaps using the Recovery Capital Assessment, a powerful tool to map out the road ahead. Recovery isn’t random—it’s built on structure, intention, and support. This episode is about understanding what works and choosing to apply it.
📘 Assignment: Assess Your Recovery Capital
Title: Where Am I in My Recovery?
Instructions:
Take the free Recovery Capital Assessment at humanintimacy.com/reclaim.
Review your scores across the 10 categories. Which areas are strongest? Which need attention?
Choose one category you want to focus on this week (e.g., social support or coping skills).
Journal your thoughts:
Why is this area important in your recovery?
What small step can I take this week to improve in this area?
What support or resources do I need?
Reclaim’s Next Episode:
Prepare for the next episode by also taking the Sexual Stress Inventory at the same link. Your scores will help you understand the emotional and behavioral stressors you’re facing and deepen your healing work.

What Does It Mean to Reclaim Your Life From Pornography (Season 1- Episode #1)

🎙️ Episode #1
“What Does It Mean to Reclaim Your Life?”
📝 Episode Summary
In this foundational episode of Reclaim: Healing from Pornography and Rebuilding Your Life, Dr. Kevin Skinner opens the door to a journey of emotional, relational, and spiritual healing. Drawing from 30 years of clinical experience and the insights that inspired his book Treating Pornography Addiction, Dr. Skinner explains why reclaiming your life is more than just quitting pornography—it's about restoring self-worth, confidence, connection, and joy.
Listeners will be invited to reflect deeply on how pornography has influenced their life and relationships, take a free personal assessment, and begin identifying the areas where healing is most needed. This episode also introduces the idea of Recovery Capital—the resources successful individuals use to sustain long-term recovery. Whether you're struggling personally or supporting someone who is, this episode offers clarity, hope, and direction.
🔑 Key Takeaways for the Listener
Reclaiming your life means restoring the real you—not just stopping a behavior.
Pornography impacts self-worth, confidence, relationships, and emotional health in often unseen ways.
Shame and secrecy are major barriers to healing and must be replaced with self-compassion.
Recovery is not a one-time event, but a journey requiring tools, support, and insight.
The Sexual Stress Inventory helps you identify how pornography has affected your mind, body, and relationships—providing a roadmap for healing.
In the next episode, you’ll explore Recovery Capital—the 10 pillars successful individuals use to sustain freedom and growth.
🧭 Suggestions & Reflections for the Listener
Pause and Reflect: What areas of your life—emotionally, spiritually, relationally—have been most affected by pornography?
Imagine Healing: What would your life feel like if you woke up free of shame and full of joy? What would reclaiming your life look like?
Assess Your Journey: Take the free Reclaim Assessment at humanintimacy.com/reclaim to better understand where you are and what you need next.
Notice Your Response to Worth: When Dr. Skinner says, “You are of infinite worth,” how do you feel inside? Resistance or agreement? Why?
📚 Mentioned Resources
Free Sexual Stress Inventory – Begin your healing with personalized insights.
Treating Pornography Addiction: The Essential Tools for Recovery by Dr. Kevin Skinner
Dopamine Nation by Dr. Anna Lembke – Understanding the neurobiology of craving and pleasure
The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg – How habits form and change the brain
Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself by Dr. Joe Dispenza – Visualization and identity transformation